Comments on: Bi the Way – About http://www.bitheway.co.uk An exploration of male bisexuality Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:45:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: K http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-32107 K Tue, 20 Sep 2011 21:11:31 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-32107 Hi, i happened upon this site thru a bi-group i belong too. I am 31 BI-Female with a wonderful loving bi-boyfriend I am excepting of his chooses and he is accepting of mine. We have been together for about a year and a half. We are talking about a threesome with another girl, which I'm good with just a little hesitant about sharing him, but I'm working on my feelings and we communicate pretty well. We have also talked about him either having a guy friend or possibly a three way with another guy for him. I'm not completely sure how i feel about this I'm ok with it, but I'm also nervous about it. I don't really have any friends to talk this over with and I'm guess I'm just looking for some one who has been or is going through the same type of situation. Or even a group that would be open to this type of discussion. Hi, i happened upon this site thru a bi-group i belong too.
I am 31 BI-Female with a wonderful loving bi-boyfriend I am excepting of his chooses and he is accepting of mine. We have been together for about a year and a half.

We are talking about a threesome with another girl, which I’m good with just a little hesitant about sharing him, but I’m working on my feelings and we communicate pretty well.

We have also talked about him either having a guy friend or possibly a three way with another guy for him. I’m not completely sure how i feel about this I’m ok with it, but I’m also nervous about it.

I don’t really have any friends to talk this over with and I’m guess I’m just looking for some one who has been or is going through the same type of situation. Or even a group that would be open to this type of discussion.

]]> By: Leanne http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-30235 Leanne Tue, 16 Aug 2011 16:50:25 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-30235 I just want to thank you so much for this site. I am a straight 24 yr. old woman. I'm going through a real tough divorce...I'm not certain if my guy is bi..but the signs have been there all along. I know it is ridiculous to make assumptions like that. Reading the blogs here have helped me make it through this and understand bisexuality more. The world would be so much easier if everything was just out in the open. Peace and Love! I just want to thank you so much for this site. I am a straight 24 yr. old woman. I’m going through a real tough divorce…I’m not certain if my guy is bi..but the signs have been there all along. I know it is ridiculous to make assumptions like that.

Reading the blogs here have helped me make it through this and understand bisexuality more.

The world would be so much easier if everything was just out in the open.

Peace and Love!

]]> By: OCO http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-29709 OCO Mon, 08 Aug 2011 10:26:46 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-29709 Hi, Great site BTW :-) Myself and my fiance have a great, great relationship both in and out of bed...We are open & honest about our desires and fantasies and have taken steps to "do" something about them. We have openly discussed swinging and her having some intimacy with another woman. Until a couple of weeks ago though, the subject of me playing with another guy was just not discussed. We did get her a strap-on and we have played with that though !! :-) Anyway, a couple of weeks ago, after some searching I told her that I was curious. Curious to feel what another man feels and taste like and also what anal with another male would be like....I don't feel attracted to other men and don't envisage a relationship of any kind other than purely physical. I was taken aback by her reaction....Total acceptance and she said she wasn't surprised at all that I would contemplate going there. Not that she thought I was Bi or Gay, just that she considered my sexuality to be strong enough to consider it and to be able to deal with it....WOW !!! And she said she would be there with me if I wanted it and we could/should share the journey - I feel like the luckiest guy on the planet !! I have some concerns and some insecurities now - Does she think less of me as a "man", have I devalued myself ?? I know I have made myself very vulnerable, but at the same time, I have discovered that I love my fiance more and more each day and that she does me. All she asks is that should I discover that I like boys more than girls, I am honest with her. Somehow, I can't see that, but it remains a concern.... I gues I am lucky in every way to have found my soulmate, someone who I can really be honest with, who understands me and wants to share a journey through our sexualities, together. To R...If you happen to read this, I love you more each day & thank you for loving me enough to set me free. I hope and believe you feel the same... To everyone else, I hope your partner reacts like R did. Hi,

Great site BTW :-)

Myself and my fiance have a great, great relationship both in and out of bed…We are open & honest about our desires and fantasies and have taken steps to “do” something about them. We have openly discussed swinging and her having some intimacy with another woman. Until a couple of weeks ago though, the subject of me playing with another guy was just not discussed. We did get her a strap-on and we have played with that though !! :-)

Anyway, a couple of weeks ago, after some searching I told her that I was curious. Curious to feel what another man feels and taste like and also what anal with another male would be like….I don’t feel attracted to other men and don’t envisage a relationship of any kind other than purely physical.

I was taken aback by her reaction….Total acceptance and she said she wasn’t surprised at all that I would contemplate going there. Not that she thought I was Bi or Gay, just that she considered my sexuality to be strong enough to consider it and to be able to deal with it….WOW !!! And she said she would be there with me if I wanted it and we could/should share the journey – I feel like the luckiest guy on the planet !!

I have some concerns and some insecurities now – Does she think less of me as a “man”, have I devalued myself ?? I know I have made myself very vulnerable, but at the same time, I have discovered that I love my fiance more and more each day and that she does me. All she asks is that should I discover that I like boys more than girls, I am honest with her. Somehow, I can’t see that, but it remains a concern….

I gues I am lucky in every way to have found my soulmate, someone who I can really be honest with, who understands me and wants to share a journey through our sexualities, together.

To R…If you happen to read this, I love you more each day & thank you for loving me enough to set me free. I hope and believe you feel the same…

To everyone else, I hope your partner reacts like R did.

]]> By: Jay http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-25094 Jay Wed, 18 May 2011 23:29:13 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-25094 Hey! Absolutley brillant website!Related so much to what your saying.Cant thank you enough! Like you, I find myself having days were Im attracted to men more than women and via versa. Im 21 and sorry for being crude but growing up I always masturbated to straight porn and women but always felt aroused and a pull towards men aswel noticing guys in magazines and on the street. This is something Ive only came to terms within the past few months. I always was really confused. Wondering was I gay but I knew I couldnt be because I loved women aswel. What gets me is I have no intention of having a relationship with a guy or having romantic feelings for a man, its purely physical attraction and have always pictured myself settling down and marrying a woman. Just was wondering is this the way you or anybody else feels? Also Im considering tellin my friends, who are convinced Im gay but I as yet have protested my hetroness. Im quite nervous about tellin them Im bi though ehich I 100% realise I am now. Is there any tips or confidence boosters you could help me with.Would be much appreciated. Yet again.Great Site! Thanks. Hey!
Absolutley brillant website!Related so much to what your saying.Cant thank you enough!
Like you, I find myself having days were Im attracted to men more than women and via versa. Im 21 and sorry for being crude but growing up I always masturbated to straight porn and women but always felt aroused and a pull towards men aswel noticing guys in magazines and on the street. This is something Ive only came to terms within the past few months. I always was really confused. Wondering was I gay but I knew I couldnt be because I loved women aswel.
What gets me is I have no intention of having a relationship with a guy or having romantic feelings for a man, its purely physical attraction and have always pictured myself settling down and marrying a woman.
Just was wondering is this the way you or anybody else feels?
Also Im considering tellin my friends, who are convinced Im gay but I as yet have protested my hetroness. Im quite nervous about tellin them Im bi though ehich I 100% realise I am now. Is there any tips or confidence boosters you could help me with.Would be much appreciated.
Yet again.Great Site! Thanks.

]]> By: C. http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-22149 C. Fri, 18 Mar 2011 03:41:47 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-22149 I feel fortunate to have found this site. As you may have guessed, my boyfriend is bi. I met him years ago when I was younger. I lost my virginity to him. I did not know then he was bi. We broke up but remained friends. Two years after that I saw on Myspace (remember Myspace? lol) that he indicated himself as bi. This was a shock to me. I am guilty of your postings, I did focus on myself. I thought, geez, I lost my virginity to a gay man! And freaked out. It took time for me to get over it. He still had girlfriends, he still had the same funny charming personality. We reconnected possibly because of the new openness between us (and maturity) but I still have questions and concerns. Sharing your stories have helped me understand and move forward in my relationship. Thank you. I feel fortunate to have found this site. As you may have guessed, my boyfriend is bi. I met him years ago when I was younger. I lost my virginity to him. I did not know then he was bi. We broke up but remained friends. Two years after that I saw on Myspace (remember Myspace? lol) that he indicated himself as bi. This was a shock to me. I am guilty of your postings, I did focus on myself. I thought, geez, I lost my virginity to a gay man! And freaked out. It took time for me to get over it. He still had girlfriends, he still had the same funny charming personality. We reconnected possibly because of the new openness between us (and maturity) but I still have questions and concerns. Sharing your stories have helped me understand and move forward in my relationship. Thank you.

]]> By: Justin http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-14120 Justin Mon, 23 Aug 2010 03:25:02 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-14120 Like some others have mentioned, I just tonight, found this site via Google search. I want to know more about this subject & it's great to find others who think like I do. I've never openly expressed any of this before & it's pretty scary for me now. I liked very much what Meleny said! I've felt for a long time that humans are simply SEXUAL beings, however one expresses that is as natural as the sunrise! Life would be so much better all around if people would just get over others being different & realize this life is ABOUT the differences! We are to explore as many different ways of being as we may find to explore! I believe it is the expression of a highly evolved Soul! What could be a higher expression of acceptance than that which is shared in sexual intimacy. I've found judgement stems from people's fear. Often they'd LIKE to be so bold, but don't dare! Questioning conventional status quo takes a lot of ( Uhum ) brass! I suspect the frequent truth is that no one else really believes what they claim to in thinking mainstream, they just don't dare wonder & color outside the lines like some of us have! It's certainly not for the faint of heart! The thing is, I think others around me have recognized my difference my entire 53 yrs of life & I have never really figured out ( and still am not , quite, which is why I'm here ) how to reconcile my inner life to what works in the mainstream. Call me chicken! Hell yes I am! I've had plenty of rejection as it is. I don't know how those of you who have "come out" deal with it! I'd like to & I really hope I do learn a way that works for me! I thank Garret for his openness & honesty! I agree with him & what he has expressed is very much how I feel! I really have no interest in anal sex, even with a woman, but the unique offerings & intimate knowledge of what's good to a man is unique to men and I think it's unequaled. Mutual acceptance in a non-judgmental & safe situation is an ultimate freedom. As good as a woman may do it, it's not the same! Thank you Garret & I'm going to check out your group. I doubt THIS can be any worse than telling my folks I was changing my name! Ya! THAT went over like a lead balloon , too! Spiritual alignment takes us in some very challenging paths! The truth that a diversity of sexual orientation has been around since the dawn of time, gets ignored by the mainstream comfort "zoned out", numb / living on auto pilot & "Don't rock the boat" crowd! Ya know what? It's really interesting to rock the boat! You'd be amazed at who makes the biggest splash! Which usually goes back to the line in Shakespeare "The Lady persists too much Methinks! ". It's amazing to discover what people REALLY think! The heart has no tongue where the boisterous mind does ramble! We are entering a new age & I think it will usher in an age of universal acceptance. One can at least hope! In the mean time, I ask " How can any expression of acceptance, affection & love, be wrong?". What I see to be "wrong" is Judgementalism and rejection in the name of a religion that preaches Universal Love & acceptance! No wonder I'm confused!! Thanks! I think I'm headed in a healthier direction. I won't lie about being scared to death though! Like some others have mentioned, I just tonight, found this site via Google search. I want to know more about this subject & it’s great to find others who think like I do. I’ve never openly expressed any of this before & it’s pretty scary for me now. I liked very much what Meleny said! I’ve felt for a long time that humans are simply SEXUAL beings, however one expresses that is as natural as the sunrise! Life would be so much better all around if people would just get over others being different & realize this life is ABOUT the differences! We are to explore as many different ways of being as we may find to explore! I believe it is the expression of a highly evolved Soul! What could be a higher expression of acceptance than that which is shared in sexual intimacy. I’ve found judgement stems from people’s fear. Often they’d LIKE to be so bold, but don’t dare! Questioning conventional status quo takes a lot of ( Uhum ) brass! I suspect the frequent truth is that no one else really believes what they claim to in thinking mainstream, they just don’t dare wonder & color outside the lines like some of us have! It’s certainly not for the faint of heart!
The thing is, I think others around me have recognized my difference my entire 53 yrs of life & I have never really figured out ( and still am not , quite, which is why I’m here ) how to reconcile my inner life to what works in the mainstream. Call me chicken! Hell yes I am! I’ve had plenty of rejection as it is. I don’t know how those of you who have “come out” deal with it! I’d like to & I really hope I do learn a way that works for me!
I thank Garret for his openness & honesty! I agree with him & what he has expressed is very much how I feel! I really have no interest in anal sex, even with a woman, but the unique offerings & intimate knowledge of what’s good to a man is unique to men and I think it’s unequaled. Mutual acceptance in a non-judgmental & safe situation is an ultimate freedom. As good as a woman may do it, it’s not the same! Thank you Garret & I’m going to check out your group.
I doubt THIS can be any worse than telling my folks I was changing my name! Ya! THAT went over like a lead balloon , too! Spiritual alignment takes us in some very challenging paths! The truth that a diversity of sexual orientation has been around since the dawn of time, gets ignored by the mainstream comfort “zoned out”, numb / living on auto pilot & “Don’t rock the boat” crowd!
Ya know what? It’s really interesting to rock the boat! You’d be amazed at who makes the biggest splash! Which usually goes back to the line in Shakespeare “The Lady persists too much Methinks! “. It’s amazing to discover what people REALLY think! The heart has no tongue where the boisterous mind does ramble! We are entering a new age & I think it will usher in an age of universal acceptance. One can at least hope! In the mean time, I ask ” How can any expression of acceptance, affection & love, be wrong?”. What I see to be “wrong” is Judgementalism and rejection in the name of a religion that preaches Universal Love & acceptance! No wonder I’m confused!! Thanks! I think I’m headed in a healthier direction. I won’t lie about being scared to death though!

]]> By: Garrett Jones http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-12351 Garrett Jones Sat, 15 May 2010 10:35:22 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-12351 Sorry, the link I gave for the group just now doesn't work. I hope this one will: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/menlovingmenasmen/?yguid=351832306 Sorry, the link I gave for the group just now doesn’t work. I hope this one will:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/menlovingmenasmen/?yguid=351832306

]]> By: Garrett Jones http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-12350 Garrett Jones Sat, 15 May 2010 10:29:48 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-12350 What you said in the first post above about the problem of being bisexual but having no group to identify with is true - but also ludicrous, because , if truth be told, there are probably more of us around than any other kind of male (I can't speak for women). We feel trapped in societies where, if we're married or partnered with a woman, it suits most people to assume that this is the whole truth about our sexuality. I've had over 50 years of happy married life but have also had good male, often sexual, relationships alongside. I've found it helpful to keep away from anal sex because (a) I have no need of it and (b) I look to a guy for what ONLY a guy has to offer and (c) this way the two sides of me cooperate and don't compete. I started a group two years back for men who love men - as men. You can find it at: http%3a//edit.yahoo.com/config/eval_profile%3f.done=http%3a//uk.mail.yahoo.com/%26.scrumb=J2AFJ2Zt8g9 If you copy and paste this into the address bar you should get there! What you said in the first post above about the problem of being bisexual but having no group to identify with is true – but also ludicrous, because , if truth be told, there are probably more of us around than any other kind of male (I can’t speak for women). We feel trapped in societies where, if we’re married or partnered with a woman, it suits most people to assume that this is the whole truth about our sexuality.
I’ve had over 50 years of happy married life but have also had good male, often sexual, relationships alongside. I’ve found it helpful to keep away from anal sex because (a) I have no need of it and (b) I look to a guy for what ONLY a guy has to offer and (c) this way the two sides of me cooperate and don’t compete.
I started a group two years back for men who love men – as men. You can find it at:
http%3a//edit.yahoo.com/config/eval_profile%3f.done=http%3a//uk.mail.yahoo.com/%26.scrumb=J2AFJ2Zt8g9
If you copy and paste this into the address bar you should get there!

]]> By: Christy http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-10568 Christy Sat, 06 Feb 2010 02:39:01 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-10568 I am a bii woman but appreciate the thoughtful website. I don't really agree with posts saying that female bisexuality is accepted. If you say you are a bi women the response is often "cool opportunity for a threesome." Although we may not be bashed in the way bi men are we are often not respected as a serious potential relationship partner. Thanks for the great site. I am a bii woman but appreciate the thoughtful website. I don’t really agree with posts saying that female bisexuality is accepted. If you say you are a bi women the response is often “cool opportunity for a threesome.” Although we may not be bashed in the way bi men are we are often not respected as a serious potential relationship partner. Thanks for the great site.

]]> By: Sam http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-8990 Sam Thu, 03 Dec 2009 04:58:04 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-8990 I just found your blog and I have to say thank you so much for doing this. I have recently come out as bisexual and run into a lot of the problems you describe on this blog. It feels good to read about someone else who has gone through this too. Thanks! I just found your blog and I have to say thank you so much for doing this. I have recently come out as bisexual and run into a lot of the problems you describe on this blog. It feels good to read about someone else who has gone through this too.
Thanks!

]]> By: bitheway http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-5719 bitheway Fri, 29 May 2009 10:17:33 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-5719 Hi Gwen Yes I'm still around. Just not had time to write anything. Also suffering from RSI so computer time is limited. Hi Gwen

Yes I’m still around. Just not had time to write anything. Also suffering from RSI so computer time is limited.

]]> By: Gwen http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-5718 Gwen Fri, 29 May 2009 10:16:08 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-5718 I was rather interested in this blog and I'm sad to see you haven't posted anything since April. You are still around though aren't you? I was rather interested in this blog and I’m sad to see you haven’t posted anything since April. You are still around though aren’t you?

]]> By: me http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-4530 me Mon, 27 Apr 2009 21:37:10 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-4530 i agree with you melene, i come from an all boys school, so its kinda normal to be bi and most people (bar chavs) embrace it. also, sometimes i have days when im way more attracted to 1 sex than the other......is that normal? i agree with you melene, i come from an all boys school, so its kinda normal to be bi and most people (bar chavs) embrace it. also, sometimes i have days when im way more attracted to 1 sex than the other……is that normal?

]]> By: Meleny http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-4086 Meleny Thu, 16 Apr 2009 05:00:17 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-4086 It's incredibly tough being hung up on sexuality in this culture (especially the US, with all of our Puritan and prude roots). Loving who you love, finding someone stunning and amazing, is one of the most wonderful feelings in the universe...regardless of sex. When one is left in awe of someone else and wishes to be intimately close to them and share themself fully, what is so wrong about that. It's a human experience, something very unique and incredibly special. There are far too many labels and meanings created around mutual attraction of the same sex. It's human, we have it happen (most of us anyway - whether we admit it or not), and it's ridiculous that there are so many incredible social taboos about people loving each other. We are ok with watching violent movies, and seeing bloodshed, but we can't accept that two people love each other who happen to be of the same sex. WTF!!!!??? It’s incredibly tough being hung up on sexuality in this culture (especially the US, with all of our Puritan and prude roots).

Loving who you love, finding someone stunning and amazing, is one of the most wonderful feelings in the universe…regardless of sex. When one is left in awe of someone else and wishes to be intimately close to them and share themself fully, what is so wrong about that. It’s a human experience, something very unique and incredibly special.

There are far too many labels and meanings created around mutual attraction of the same sex. It’s human, we have it happen (most of us anyway – whether we admit it or not), and it’s ridiculous that there are so many incredible social taboos about people loving each other.

We are ok with watching violent movies, and seeing bloodshed, but we can’t accept that two people love each other who happen to be of the same sex. WTF!!!!???

]]> By: gerard http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-4016 gerard Tue, 14 Apr 2009 10:21:57 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-4016 hi, i like your web site... 19 yo bi guy from Holland... take care! hi, i like your web site…
19 yo bi guy from Holland…
take care!

]]> By: Collin http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-3678 Collin Mon, 06 Apr 2009 04:37:59 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-3678 I found this page while using Stumble, and I was so glad for it. I like to see that we have a community in the making; what you're doing is key to advancing our lifestyle. The day I came out as bi felt so amazing and finding this site just reinforced the joy I found in this revelation about myself. Keep up the good work :) I found this page while using Stumble, and I was so glad for it. I like to see that we have a community in the making; what you’re doing is key to advancing our lifestyle. The day I came out as bi felt so amazing and finding this site just reinforced the joy I found in this revelation about myself. Keep up the good work :)

]]> By: Petra http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-2736 Petra Sat, 14 Mar 2009 19:11:04 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-2736 Hi, I wondered if you'd be interested in a link exchange? I am a big fan of your blog who find it very interesting to see how male bisexuality works - from the other side so to speak. Petra Hi, I wondered if you’d be interested in a link exchange? I am a big fan of your blog who find it very interesting to see how male bisexuality works – from the other side so to speak.

Petra

]]> By: MIKE GREEN http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-1786 MIKE GREEN Fri, 13 Feb 2009 23:46:55 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-1786 I am 59 years of age and ' came -out' to my lovely wife that I am Bisexual about 8 years ago. I have been happily married for 35 years, but recognised over time that I was attracted to men as well. My wife has been great in accepting me for who I am, but said that she does not know how she would have reacted if I had told her earlier on in our marriage. I was saddened to read Willies comment posted in January and the pain he is going through. You are not alone Willie and there are alot more of us married guys out there, who fit into a similar category. Accepting who we are and having others accept us is often the difficulty in our society. I found this site by Google too. A great find. Thankyou. I am 59 years of age and ‘ came -out’ to my lovely wife that I am Bisexual about 8 years ago. I have been happily married for 35 years, but recognised over time that I was attracted to men as well. My wife has been great in accepting me for who I am, but said that she does not know how she would have reacted if I had told her earlier on in our marriage. I was saddened to read Willies comment posted in January and the pain he is going through. You are not alone Willie and there are alot more of us married guys out there, who fit into a similar category. Accepting who we are and having others accept us is often the difficulty in our society. I found this site by Google too. A great find. Thankyou.

]]> By: AllieNekoBiChick http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-1434 AllieNekoBiChick Sat, 24 Jan 2009 18:15:51 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-1434 hey um im bisexual but im a female but anyway i was hoping u could lend advice or something.... i learned i was bisexual when i was 16 although i think i knew it subconsciously since i discovered sex and started noticing changes years before.... all my friends know.... all my close ones anyway... but i have a catholic family and im still afraid to tell them even though i am now 21.... i once had a fight with my mom and blurted out "IM BISEXUAL!" her response was that she doesnt believe in bisexuality.... im not sure whether she believed me or not >.< my dad takes everything out of proportion, my 2 sisters hate anything different i mean they hate that i like to wear black and they hate that im goth and have goth friends, my mom once told me before my outburst that in addition to not believing in bisexuality that she believes it is an excuse to be greedy (heard that one quite a few times since then *sigh*) and the rest of my family are big church-goers particularly my traditional grandma.... do u have any advice as to how i can come out to my family? and i mean all of them... i want to be able to cry on my mom's shoulder when a breakup with a girlfriend goes bad and not just for the guy breakups =/ hey um im bisexual but im a female but anyway i was hoping u could lend advice or something…. i learned i was bisexual when i was 16 although i think i knew it subconsciously since i discovered sex and started noticing changes years before…. all my friends know…. all my close ones anyway… but i have a catholic family and im still afraid to tell them even though i am now 21…. i once had a fight with my mom and blurted out “IM BISEXUAL!” her response was that she doesnt believe in bisexuality…. im not sure whether she believed me or not >.< my dad takes everything out of proportion, my 2 sisters hate anything different i mean they hate that i like to wear black and they hate that im goth and have goth friends, my mom once told me before my outburst that in addition to not believing in bisexuality that she believes it is an excuse to be greedy (heard that one quite a few times since then *sigh*) and the rest of my family are big church-goers particularly my traditional grandma….
do u have any advice as to how i can come out to my family? and i mean all of them… i want to be able to cry on my mom’s shoulder when a breakup with a girlfriend goes bad and not just for the guy breakups =/

]]> By: wesley http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-1393 wesley Tue, 20 Jan 2009 05:14:12 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-1393 I had a Helen Keller water moment when I realized bisexuality was a valid state of being. I then quickly realized bisexual and gay are simply not the same thing when I found myself sitting on a rooftop deck in Chicago surrounded by gay men and cocktails, thoroughly not enjoying myself . I thought there must be something wrong with me, I just don't fit in anywhere. It's a major issue for many of us because bisexuality actually is more about individuality and being comfortable with yourself and there really is no real community. Maybe sites like this can change that. Either way it's nice to know that I'm not the only 29 year old male bisexual oddball in this world. I had a Helen Keller water moment when I realized bisexuality was a valid state of being. I then quickly realized bisexual and gay are simply not the same thing when I found myself sitting on a rooftop deck in Chicago surrounded by gay men and cocktails, thoroughly not enjoying myself . I thought there must be something wrong with me, I just don’t fit in anywhere. It’s a major issue for many of us because bisexuality actually is more about individuality and being comfortable with yourself and there really is no real community. Maybe sites like this can change that. Either way it’s nice to know that I’m not the only 29 year old male bisexual oddball in this world.

]]> By: willie http://www.bitheway.co.uk/about/comment-page-1/#comment-1340 willie Sun, 11 Jan 2009 06:52:21 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?page_id=2#comment-1340 Thank you so much for setting up this site, Bi the Way! I'm a 48-year old South African bi guy who are going through a painful divorce because I'm bi. I've felt alone, I've felt like a freak and I've felt completely worthless. And then I googled "Explain Bisexuality" and came across this site. It helps a lot to know I'm not alone... Thank you so much for setting up this site, Bi the Way! I’m a 48-year old South African bi guy who are going through a painful divorce because I’m bi. I’ve felt alone, I’ve felt like a freak and I’ve felt completely worthless. And then I googled “Explain Bisexuality” and came across this site. It helps a lot to know I’m not alone…

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