Apr 13 2008
Bi the Way - About
I’m male, 29, and I’m bisexual. Now that’s not how I’d normally introduce myself, because my sexuality is not the cornerstone of my self-identity. However, for the purposes of this blog its a fitting place to start, because this web site is about exploring male sexuality, in particular male bisexuality.
Bisexuality is a topic that remains largely taboo for a lot of men, despite the fact that there are millions of men out there who find themselves attracted to both men and women. There is a lot of pressure, particularly on young men to either identify themselves as straight or gay, and whilst peer pressure makes it hard to come out as gay, its even more difficult to come out as bisexual as there is no clear peer group where you can turn to support.
So I decided to write this blog for several reasons: The first is to explore my own sexuality. The second is to let others who are struggling with their sexual identity know that they are not alone and there are others out there like them. And finally to educate others and dispel a few myths about bisexuals and bisexuality.
There is a 4th supplemental reason and that is that I was curious to see how easy it was to set-up WordPress on a Windows platform, thanks to Nuclear Internet it was an absolute breeze.
Its also worth pointing out that this is a blog about sexuality not sex, so you won’t find the sordid details of my love life plastered across the world wide web or any sexually explicit images here. So please don’t ask. (Well OK - ask, I’ll be flattered, but you won’t get anything.) That said if you do have any suggestions for the site or questions you’d like to ask please post a comment, this is an interactive web site and your contributions are as important as my own. You can also write to me by email: editor[at]bitheway[dot]co[dot]uk.
Hope you enjoy the site.
Bi the Way
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And thanks for setting this up! I just found this today, and agree with everything you say. Thanks for giving a teenage bisexual somewhere to turn too!
Hey Void - no problem, glad I could of being some help.
Take care buddy and keep reading, bisexuals do exist out there - we are just a bit invisible at times.
Great site. I came upon it via a google search for David Beckham bisexual. (which I never found any clarification on BTW).
Anyway there is a lot of good info here. I also am 29 and a bisexual male. A side of me I’ve only explored a few times but have taken more interest in lately.
I’m sort of hoping we’re coming into an age where male bisexuality and male sexuality in general become more mainstream. Female bisexuality is pretty well accepted in western society. But male bisexuality is still misunderstood and looked down on by both straight and gay guys and surprisingly many women. Even my own girlfriend who is a bisexual doesn’t understand or fully accept my bisexuality. To her, females being bisexual just seems more natural then men being bisexual. I disagree with her.
Today we walk into malls and see Victoria Secret stores catering to female sexuality. I’d love to see stores like this for males being more mainstream. Women talk about vibrators and they all have them, most guys seem awkward about male sex toys or anal play. I’d love to see male sexuality really open up. I mean why should the girls have all the fun?
Hi Michael
Thanks for you kind words.
“David Beckham Bisexual” Interesting search query - were you just hoping or do you have some insider information to share? LOL - no as far as I can tell Becks is 100% straight. I’m a little surprised the site came up under that Google search but its probably because of this page:
PS: I totally agree with your thoughts about male bisexuality, I think we are entering an age when its becoming much more acceptable. But it still turns heads.
you are my blogspotlight and shout for the day
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Thanks QueerUnity!
Hello! Woooow, I´m still shocked. I think this site is amazing, it´s good to know I´m not alone lol. I´m a 19-years-old, mexican guy. Maybe you don´t know but in Mexico it´s hard to find web sites about bisexuality. sometimes I´ve thought that bisexuality doesn´t exist. But right now, with your web site and with my feelings I believe bisexuality is there. You know, I consider myself as bisexual. Obviously my attraction to each gender isn´t 50 & 50. It´s kind of difficult to determine the grade of attraction but, I think you must already know about it.
Well, I want to congratulate you because of this page. Now you know you have a mexican reader. I´ll be waiting for the next post. Maybe someday we can chat, don´t you think? Might be interesting to talk with a bisexual man lol
Greetings from Mexico!
There is not way to contact you except publicly. Great site, but that’s dumb. Why you hiding?
Hi Seth
I certainly haven’t been “hiding”, in fact I think I’ve even included my real name on more than one post.
And my email address can be found on the Contributors page, and I’ve added it to the bottom of main content of this page too.
For the record, my email address for correspondence is editor[at]bitheway[dot]co[dot]uk.
I’m guessing everyone can follow how to decipher that. Apologies for not making it a clear direct link, but I’m trying to avoid having my email picked up by scrapers which scour web sites for email addresses to build spam lists.
Hi…and thanks for your blog. It feels good to read about other men with the same feelings and difficulties and triumphs, so-to-speak. It is a lot to keep bottled up inside when there is no outlet to share…here is one.
“Katie”
Thanks so much for this blog…I’ve been looking for something like this since I came out bi about a month ago (no easy feat, being 19 and in college). Everyone I know has been really supportive of it, and my life hasn’t changed at all, but I now find myself much more interested in bisexuality, especially male bisexuality, and it’s great to see discussion of it anywhere. Thanks!
I was thinking it’s time to take an active approach to my sexuality instead of waiting to be categorized by others. I’m 22 and have known I’m bisexual for a while.. now it’s just a matter of deciding how public to be about it! It’s easy to feel isolated when so few people talk openly about it. So it’s a great thing you’re doing! Thanks
Thank you so much for setting up this site, Bi the Way! I’m a 48-year old South African bi guy who are going through a painful divorce because I’m bi. I’ve felt alone, I’ve felt like a freak and I’ve felt completely worthless. And then I googled “Explain Bisexuality” and came across this site. It helps a lot to know I’m not alone…
I had a Helen Keller water moment when I realized bisexuality was a valid state of being. I then quickly realized bisexual and gay are simply not the same thing when I found myself sitting on a rooftop deck in Chicago surrounded by gay men and cocktails, thoroughly not enjoying myself . I thought there must be something wrong with me, I just don’t fit in anywhere. It’s a major issue for many of us because bisexuality actually is more about individuality and being comfortable with yourself and there really is no real community. Maybe sites like this can change that. Either way it’s nice to know that I’m not the only 29 year old male bisexual oddball in this world.
hey um im bisexual but im a female but anyway i was hoping u could lend advice or something…. i learned i was bisexual when i was 16 although i think i knew it subconsciously since i discovered sex and started noticing changes years before…. all my friends know…. all my close ones anyway… but i have a catholic family and im still afraid to tell them even though i am now 21…. i once had a fight with my mom and blurted out “IM BISEXUAL!” her response was that she doesnt believe in bisexuality…. im not sure whether she believed me or not >.< my dad takes everything out of proportion, my 2 sisters hate anything different i mean they hate that i like to wear black and they hate that im goth and have goth friends, my mom once told me before my outburst that in addition to not believing in bisexuality that she believes it is an excuse to be greedy (heard that one quite a few times since then *sigh*) and the rest of my family are big church-goers particularly my traditional grandma….
do u have any advice as to how i can come out to my family? and i mean all of them… i want to be able to cry on my mom’s shoulder when a breakup with a girlfriend goes bad and not just for the guy breakups =/
I am 59 years of age and ‘ came -out’ to my lovely wife that I am Bisexual about 8 years ago. I have been happily married for 35 years, but recognised over time that I was attracted to men as well. My wife has been great in accepting me for who I am, but said that she does not know how she would have reacted if I had told her earlier on in our marriage. I was saddened to read Willies comment posted in January and the pain he is going through. You are not alone Willie and there are alot more of us married guys out there, who fit into a similar category. Accepting who we are and having others accept us is often the difficulty in our society. I found this site by Google too. A great find. Thankyou.
Hi, I wondered if you’d be interested in a link exchange? I am a big fan of your blog who find it very interesting to see how male bisexuality works - from the other side so to speak.
Petra
I found this page while using Stumble, and I was so glad for it. I like to see that we have a community in the making; what you’re doing is key to advancing our lifestyle. The day I came out as bi felt so amazing and finding this site just reinforced the joy I found in this revelation about myself. Keep up the good work
hi, i like your web site…
19 yo bi guy from Holland…
take care!
It’s incredibly tough being hung up on sexuality in this culture (especially the US, with all of our Puritan and prude roots).
Loving who you love, finding someone stunning and amazing, is one of the most wonderful feelings in the universe…regardless of sex. When one is left in awe of someone else and wishes to be intimately close to them and share themself fully, what is so wrong about that. It’s a human experience, something very unique and incredibly special.
There are far too many labels and meanings created around mutual attraction of the same sex. It’s human, we have it happen (most of us anyway - whether we admit it or not), and it’s ridiculous that there are so many incredible social taboos about people loving each other.
We are ok with watching violent movies, and seeing bloodshed, but we can’t accept that two people love each other who happen to be of the same sex. WTF!!!!???
i agree with you melene, i come from an all boys school, so its kinda normal to be bi and most people (bar chavs) embrace it. also, sometimes i have days when im way more attracted to 1 sex than the other……is that normal?
I was rather interested in this blog and I’m sad to see you haven’t posted anything since April. You are still around though aren’t you?
Hi Gwen
Yes I’m still around. Just not had time to write anything. Also suffering from RSI so computer time is limited.