Jun 01 2009
Writer’s block
Lately there have been some people who have expressed concern that I’m no longer updating this web site. First of all I’d like to reassure everyone that I am. Though truthfully, not as frequently as I once was. Comments are still been published and I’m replying to individual posts whenever I think I have something useful to say and I do read everything that is added to the site. However, I’ve been rather busy these past few months and time has been limited, so I thought I’d offer readers a quick update to explain why.
1) I have an RSI (Repetitive Strain Injury) which makes typing and spending time at the computer painful. As I have to work at a computer for my day job, I am rationing my PC time and this leaves little time for writing lengthy articles.
2) Moreover, I’ve met someone and I’m in love. We’ve been together almost 4 months and we’re very happy. My new partner has a small-holding in the country, which together we are trying to restore and work towards growing our own fruit and veg. So a new relationship and back-breaking labour on the farm leaves even less time for the blog.
For those of you who are wondering, my new partner is female, and yes she knows and is completely cool with me being bisexual.
There have been things I’d like to comment on. Such as the California Supreme Court upholding Proposition 8 – which sucks. But its been impossible to find time at the right moments to be topical, by the time I’d got to my computer, it was old news and had been blogged to death.
Finally I guess another contribution to current absence of new material is that as my existence is now exclusively straight and that I now have a girlfriend who is totally accepting of who I am, finding sources of personal inspiration is tricky, especially as my written style generally stems from reacting to injustice.
My personal happiness and my girlfriend’s acceptance is an odd cause for writers block, but a welcome one.
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‘My personal happiness and my girlfriend’s acceptance is an odd cause for writers block, but a welcome one.’
I’m guessing that most people that encounter writers block would wish that they had a reason like that for it
Maybe it’s a good idea to use your limited writing time to look for other contributers instead of writing yourself? Not that your writing is bad or anything, on the contrary, but more contributers might have more sources of inspiration combined with different perspectives, two things which can put some life back in the blog.
Hi Gemakie
The blog is open to other contributors (see our Contributors Page). So I welcome submissions from other writers.
Cheers
David
Hi bitheway.
I don’t know if you remember me but I believe you were one of the few who welcomed me when I first got onto the Shy Bi Guys Forum way back almost about a year ago. I believed I told you that I got there through this website.
I’m quite active there now and I must say that I built a few great bonds of brotherhood with a few of them. I’ve come a long way but I’m slowly relishing every minute of my journey to my bi discovery and you’re one of the few people I have to thank for it,
I was actually wondering what on Earth was going on with you because it’s been long since I’ve heard from you both on the boards and here on your blog. I’m glad that you’re doing well and even happier for you to have found love. I wish you well and I look forward to corresponding with you more. Take care and here’s to good health and a great week ahead for you.
Regards
SMSS84
Hello Dave.
I just want to say what a great blog you have here. I wish I could tell you how helpful it has been to me. Because of this place and especially the story, “What Do I Expect From My Male Friends”, I found the courage to face who I am. It hit so close to home, I could have written that article myself.
It has also helped come out to my wife. All this has just happened in the last few days, and emotions are still very raw, but we are talking things through and taking one day at a time. We both take great comfort in reading the stories here to help us deal with this. But deal with it we will, and hopefully emerge a stronger and happier couple.
Again, my sincere and heart felt thanks.
Dear Dave,
Blogging is draining, and don’t feel bad about having a life once you turn off the computer
This said, a big “thank you” for the blog. To read the entries, and comments, is not just a major relief for me but it also points to very pertinent questions that demand an answer. Below is my short story, very similar to stories that have been written 1,000 times on this blog already. I only spell it out in case it may fuel some ideas, or interest any reader.
I am 29, Frenchman expatriate in the US, and have been married for two years with a woman I deeply love and respect. Like anyone else reading this who has not come out to their spouse, not been able to share this with her is a painful scare. At the same time, every time I did come out to friends, it has always been received with the plainest cliches: from “benevolent” friends thinking I was also gay and hiding, to bf and gf cutting our relationship short on the spot.
Today, I leave comfortably and frequent both gay and straight friends. But not being able to express what I feel is a heavy load. The only reason I would ever come out would be to protect my wife from unfair criticism: “her husband is gay, she knows it and she covers for him”.
Charlie