and for the record i have a similar sexuality to dave, just with a much higher sex drive, the list goes on but ill just say exibitionist and leave it at that =0

And whilst you might not be trying to appeal to women, sarcastically blaming anything on a period is the number 1 way to piss of women.

Trust me I speak from painfully learnt experience. I still have the scars.

It would seem that to you, words and their meaning are two totally different things.

“There is nothing wrong with my physical features that would suggest I’m lesbian”

Your problem is you took Ben’s baited insult and replied in kind without thinking and wound up saying something insulting to lesbians.

I was going to post a totally different reply, but you already did that. It seems as if ben’s logic is just as flawed and ungrounded as his insults towards women in general.

(For the record Madame has neither.)

Of course they don’t! But listen to yourselves! You’re stereotyping… Again… Not good, it’s a quick way to piss people off. Ben to read your post we’d assume you think all lesbians looked the same. And Madame, to read your post you’d think all lesbians were butt ugly and had “something wrong” with their physical appearance. How do you thing a lesbian is going to feel reading your comment? Happy, warm and fuzzy or irritated at your small minded negative image of them?

madame
maybe your physical features make people think your a lesbian?

dave
i dont know about you but i dont agree with my friends unless i like there opinion, and we get along fine, example: they say they dont like ketchup i would say only ****** (whatever word comes to mind, usually offencive to a group of people) then they laugh and call me gay.

as a result i have stable relationships

That’s a sweeping statement and its unfair.

Now you seem to be claiming that gay people wanted to have sex with you, well frankly (as you are a woman) that doesn’t make sense unless you are talking about lesbians and if so, its also a presumptuous statement.

Frankly I don’t find anything you have said in this thread particularly credible.

I’d also add that at no point have I suggested you have to relinquish any part of yourself to “fit in” – I’ve just told you that if you want to get on with people its better to focus on what you have in common with others rather than to emphasise your differences. Unless declaring yourself to be different from everyone else is an essential part of being “you” then how does that compromise your persona?

If it is then you are destined to be disliked, lonely and miserable. But hey at least you can pat yourself on the back for being you!

This is why I don’t get into anything discussions with you about certain things, because you only see, hear and read the parts that best suits you and then you turn the whole conversation around so that you are right and everyone else is wrong.

I don’t have to try hard to “fit in” unlike you, I enjoy my differences and don’t need to apologize for it. I understand what you’re saying and that is exactly what I have done in the past whenever I’ve found myself in this situation. Unfortunately for me, they weren’t interested in the so called “common ground” we shared, they just wanted sex. So I’m sorry, in this case I will not try very hard to gain this person’s attention or to try and talk about things we might have in common.

No lesbian, gay or bisexual person in their right mind is going to be offended by your being straight.

However, you claim to get a negative reaction whenever you correct a gay persons assumption that you are queer.

What I’ve suggested here is not that you have been rude, but that you have used language which is unintentionally divisive. No matter how politely you phrase it, or how gentle your tone, saying “Oh, I’m not gay, I’m Straight.” or “Sorry but I’m straight,” or any variant there of, emphasises your differences with the other person and creates a social rift. This is something to avoid if you want to win friends.

Forget for a minute you are talking about sexuality and consider if you were talking about music.

Say I was chatting to someone who is a lover of classical music. She proceeds to rattle off all the names of dead composers she likes and lists a number of conciertos that I’d never heard of.

Now had I said “I don’t like classical music, I’m a rock fan.” That would have probably ended our conversation about music. However, if instead I say something like. “I find it interesting that today its films which are now promoting classical music. With composers like David Arnold and Jon Williams writing classical scores for Hollywood blockbusters”

Here I have found common ground, we have the basis for continuing a conversation and we haven’t muted our interaction by focusing on our differences.

And yes we do have different interests, but that does not mean that when I express my own sexuality, that the other person should think I’m rude. That, in my opinion, is creating the opposite effect from what the gay and lesbian community stands for.

I deserve the same rights as them. I’ve never had a problem with a person’s sexual orientation and never will. The only thing that does happen from time to time is that I get approached by people who naturally assume that everyone else could be gay or lesbian, and that is not right.

I don’t assume that everyone is straight, so why do I have to pardon my sexual interest or the way I express them (especially when I’m doing it in a very respectful way)?

As I can recall, you were the one who once said: “Assumption is the mother of all f***ups”