Still there are some people you want to tell, you want them to know so they understand you as a whole person. This is a compelling reason to tell them. Also coming out feels good, it is like taking a weight off your shoulders.

However, my experience that many seemingly tolerant straight people, find my bisexuality unattractive. I mention and explain my bisexuality and all of a sudden they don’t want to sleep with me. I’m starting to view this as a mild form of homophobia. But I digress.

I’m sorry I can’t give you clear advice, I can only relate my experiences, ultimately you’ve got to weigh up the pros and cons, the risks and the benefits and decide for yourself.

I appreciate your breakdown of how the sexes view communication, However, I believe this is not mutually exclusive to either sex. We, as in, all people have different skills as well as ways of self expression. If a guy wants to “discuss” an issue that he is having with a coworker, is he looking for someone to solve his problem or is he just venting and in need of a sounding board? That sympathetic ear.

No, you haven’t proven a single thing. First off, you started your last comment with an insult (in fact, you can expect one back). Furthermore, my selfesteem is perfectly OK. I don’t have problems finding a date or men coming up to me. I just pointed out the fact that most women would be looking for a gentleman and not some jerk who thinks he’s good at giving insults.

Women are more rational than you might think. It just goes to show why there are still some women out there who thinks all men are jerks (I think you’ve proven that point perfectly well.)

Example: Girl comes home and wants to talk about a problem at work. A colleague is pissing her off. Boyfriend tells her what to do about it (offers solution). Girl keeps talking about her problem. Guy gets frustrated cos girl has ignored his solution… Girl gets frustrated because guy hasn’t bothered to empathise with her (he just jumped straight to the solution). She accuses him of not listening. Girl and Guy have argument. Fall out and don’t understand why.

Guys – if there is one thing I’ve learnt, girls don’t want you to solve their problems, they just want you to listen to them.

Men and women have different skills, recognising those differences and understanding the other person’s way of thinking, is key to a happy relationship.

Ben clearly expects women to be like men, that’s why he calls them irrational. The women are calling Ben a jerk, because he’s failed to empathise with them. The women are wrongly expecting Ben to be like a woman. See the problem?

You are just the type of guy I would NEVER date (and if you happen to be gay, then luckily that will NEVER happen.) )

And Dave, I’ve known you long enough and hey things will pick up for you again…depression is shitty, but it will pass and you’ll feel brand new and ready to flaunt it again.

Men do not tend to be bi-phobic of bisexual women. Probably because most guys assume (often wrongly) that a bisexual girlfriend is their ticket to a threesome.

Granted in this sense men may also be exhibiting a kind of flawed logic, but its not a trust issue and we are not automatically assuming something negative about women. (There’s nothing wrong with threesomes).

But yeah, we do want to feel special. Don’t you?