I’m transgendered, and it frustrates me the extent to which transgender is thought of as a sexuality, or as a single category to which everyone who doesn’t fit with their genetic sex gets assigned.

And even besides the gay/straight/bisexual/pansexual spectrum, transfolk don’t always fit into a binary male/female dynamic either. Some of us just feel completely the opposite of what we’re born. Some feel somewhere in between. Some become disgusted with the entire concept of gender and create their own set of rules. So that’s yet another spectrum. (With my own crass neologisms ‘blender’ and ‘bender’ for the sharp ends of the spectrum)

Sometimes i wonder how the T got in GLBT.

Amen. I think the driving issue behind all of this is that the two are spectrums, and not necessarily related – the point of the queer movement is that our gender does not define who we will be attracted to.

Although if someone who wasn’t monosexist asked me if I was queer, knowing it meant LGBTQAPI[...], I’d say yes.

I identify as “bi” but when going into detail, I say “pansexual”. Or if the people are likely to know what pansexuality is, I’ll just say it. I understand that it reinforces the binary view of sex and gender to call myself bi but I do things to stop that in other ways.