“Unless you have the patience to wait until he comes out for himself, then the only thing you can honestly do is ask and hope he’s at the point where he can be honest with himself, so he can then be honest with you.”

and I agree with sal’s paragraph:

“…coming out is something you do for yourself and not for others.”

In both cases it’s a personal issue. But I do think that as soon as someone knows that he/she is definately bi, then they should inform their partner. Dragging it out won’t change the end result. The worst that could happen is for your partner to leave you.

Asking though, remains the most honest way to prompt someone into telling you. Jamie’s right, if they are not ready they might deny it, but as I said in the piece, no lies when they say “yes - I’m bi”.

I suppose entrapment is another approach, If you suspect your boyfriend is bisexual, you could pretend to be bi yourself and come out to him, see if that gives him the comfort zone to come out for himself. But that has all kinds of negative repercussions when he finds out you lied. So I’m not going to recommend that strategy.

Unless you have the patience to wait until he comes out for himself, then the only thing you can honestly do is ask and hope he’s at the point where he can be honest with himself, so he can then be honest with you.