Comments on: Bisexuality: What’s in a label http://www.bitheway.co.uk/2008/05/08/bisexuality-whats-in-a-label/ An exploration of male bisexuality Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:45:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Todd http://www.bitheway.co.uk/2008/05/08/bisexuality-whats-in-a-label/comment-page-1/#comment-22629 Todd Sun, 27 Mar 2011 14:36:03 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?p=24#comment-22629 I call myself bisexual, and I'm okay with it. But you have to admit, it's such a *technical* word. Why can't we have something catchy like "gay" or "lesbian"? I would happily embrace another term if it became widespread and non-queer people understood what it meant without me having to explain it to them. I call myself bisexual, and I’m okay with it. But you have to admit, it’s such a *technical* word. Why can’t we have something catchy like “gay” or “lesbian”? I would happily embrace another term if it became widespread and non-queer people understood what it meant without me having to explain it to them.

]]> By: RTJ http://www.bitheway.co.uk/2008/05/08/bisexuality-whats-in-a-label/comment-page-1/#comment-123 RTJ Mon, 16 Jun 2008 07:35:07 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?p=24#comment-123 I'm kinda with sal on this one. I don't reject the bisexual label, but I don't wholeheartedly embrace it, either. I've gone through long periods of time of being almost exclusively attracted to one or the other sex. Enough so that I would consider myself closer to gay or straight for those periods of time. I don't shy away from the bisexual label out of fear or confusion at those times--I do so because it feels inaccurate. I've also had periods of time where I've been attracted to both sexes, though these are rare. At these times, I'm more comfortable with the bisexual label. I don't see myself ever being totally comfortable embracing any pre-packaged sexual identity, though. The notion that sexuality is as permanent and easily defined as eye color is what needs to be challenged. I’m kinda with sal on this one. I don’t reject the bisexual label, but I don’t wholeheartedly embrace it, either. I’ve gone through long periods of time of being almost exclusively attracted to one or the other sex. Enough so that I would consider myself closer to gay or straight for those periods of time. I don’t shy away from the bisexual label out of fear or confusion at those times–I do so because it feels inaccurate.

I’ve also had periods of time where I’ve been attracted to both sexes, though these are rare. At these times, I’m more comfortable with the bisexual label. I don’t see myself ever being totally comfortable embracing any pre-packaged sexual identity, though. The notion that sexuality is as permanent and easily defined as eye color is what needs to be challenged.

]]> By: sal http://www.bitheway.co.uk/2008/05/08/bisexuality-whats-in-a-label/comment-page-1/#comment-75 sal Tue, 27 May 2008 21:56:38 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?p=24#comment-75 i hear your activism and I like it. In my experience, the need to move away from a label is that it constrains my identity. You mentioned several reasons to identify with the label bisexual, but one that I consider important is time. Our society pushes to believe that identity is a static thing that never changes and therefore is solid, permanent, and may I say, credible. Anything that changes lacks credibility. Well, in my experience, I've been through periods that I'm mostly attracted to men, and periods when I'm mostly attracted to women. That doesn't make my identity a "confused" one, but that makes me see myself as a person whose experience changes with time. As you said, my sexuality is not the cornerstone of my identity. One of the cornerstones of my identity is that I change, that I evolve and that I try to adapt to my environment using my values and my convictions to do that. I'm not the same shy student I was in high school, and I'm not the confused teenager either. I evolved. And my need for labels to explain my own behavior to the rest of the world has evolved as well. i hear your activism and I like it. In my experience, the need to move away from a label is that it constrains my identity. You mentioned several reasons to identify with the label bisexual, but one that I consider important is time. Our society pushes to believe that identity is a static thing that never changes and therefore is solid, permanent, and may I say, credible. Anything that changes lacks credibility. Well, in my experience, I’ve been through periods that I’m mostly attracted to men, and periods when I’m mostly attracted to women. That doesn’t make my identity a “confused” one, but that makes me see myself as a person whose experience changes with time. As you said, my sexuality is not the cornerstone of my identity. One of the cornerstones of my identity is that I change, that I evolve and that I try to adapt to my environment using my values and my convictions to do that. I’m not the same shy student I was in high school, and I’m not the confused teenager either. I evolved. And my need for labels to explain my own behavior to the rest of the world has evolved as well.

]]> By: Pobept http://www.bitheway.co.uk/2008/05/08/bisexuality-whats-in-a-label/comment-page-1/#comment-41 Pobept Thu, 15 May 2008 14:11:44 +0000 http://www.bitheway.co.uk/?p=24#comment-41 I don't like being labeled as:....... well the fact is I'm not really gay, I do love a midnight ride with a pretty girl. But, I'm by no means 'straight', an hour or two with a really horny guy is a pleasurable sexual experience. What other term fit's but bisexual? I don’t like being labeled as:……. well the fact is I’m not really gay, I do love a midnight ride with a pretty girl. But, I’m by no means ‘straight’, an hour or two with a really horny guy is a pleasurable sexual experience. What other term fit’s but bisexual?

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